Black Dating, sad but true...

As funny as this is ya'll can't deny that there are too many women like this in our society. It needs to stop!

Black History Month

Every year during Black History Month I get a little sad. I think about the status of black people in the world and I realize that for another year we are at the bottom of the food chain. Africa was and still is the richest nation in the world and somehow African's still live in unimaginable poverty.

I love being black (not that I had a choice lol!). The history, the culture, the stigma - all of it! You can say whatever you want about black people but you cannot deny, we are interesting and talented people. Did you know that the first surgeon to conduct heart surgery was black? Probably not. If I told you that the first rapper was black you look at me like I was dumb though and think "Obviously!".

Well why is it that as a black nation we do not promote all our achievements? (I don't know, I'm asking!) Why is it that it's only the negative parts that we promote? 

It's easy to blame it on the 'white man' but ladies have you ever gone to a hairdressers and heard anything other than "Shaniqua stole Monique's man!" and "Did you hear Ms. Charlene's boy got arrested last night?". Men, have you been chilling with your boys for a lengthy period of time without discussing someone that's been arrested or making illegal money? This obviously doesn't apply to everyone but you can't deny that the majority of conversation among black people promotes the negative, even if it is just by discussing it.

It saddens me that black people are seen so negatively by the rest of the world when we have so much good in us. Now I'm fully aware that we are no saints and that there is no smoke without fire, unfortunately I will be the first to admit that in the streets of London, where there's a crime there normally is a black person involved but is it just me or whenever a black person is involved in anything negative it just seems so much worse?

For example, Tiger Woods. Don't get me wrong, I do not condone his behaviour in any way, shape or form but is he the first celebrity to cheat on his wife? How many footballers and actors have been doing much worse? We all know that if his wife had been black we probably would have never heard about it (I'm just saying what all of you are thinking!). Do you remember when Usher came out with his "I'm a sex addict" cra... i mean 'problem'? Who cared? It was just black Chilli he'd cheated on, no paparazzi there. In fact I only knew about it because he made a whole album discussing it and the sales for that were legendary!

And this brings me to the other cause of my sadness - racism is not dead. If you think it is you're either not from an 'ethnic minority' (I hate that term!) or you live under a rock! 

As sad as this fact makes me, we as black people need to stop using the 'racism' card as an excuse to be lazy (yeah I said it!)! Too many black people complain about how hard it is to get a job and how hard it is to live in a predominantly white world etc. In what part of black history did you find the word 'easy'? Our race is built on hard work, endurance and survival so suck it up and do something constructive with yourself!

I few months back there was a programme on BBC called 'Welcome to Lagos'. BBC made a mockery of Nigerians and Facebook was rampant with jokes but I on the other hand had never been prouder of being a Nigerian in my life! There was a particular guy on the documentary who had a Agricultural Science degree but couldn't find a job anywhere (this is normal in such countries). He then went about explaining how he studied the meat market an noticed that all the animal blood was washed away so he came up with a scientific formula to turn the blood which was going to waste into farming by-products! Can you imagine!? This is what the black nation is built on, initiative, persistance and hard work!

In 1998 Tupac said "We ain't ready to see a black President" and now 12 years on we have one so doesn't that mean that the sky is the limit? We have black people in every field, male and female, and yes we do need to fight harder for these positions but isn't that what our ancestors faught for? Isn't that the whole point of celebrating Black History? 

The opportunities are there so take them, work hard at them, be the best at them and spread the word about them. Enough with the negativity already, let's start thinking, acting and talking positively so that the rest of the world can also speak positively about us.

The top of that food chain is wondering why we are taking so long ;- )

No Offence

I have recently embarked on quite an adventure and I’m meeting a lot of... erm... different people. I’ve moved around a lot in my life so I am used to adaptation and meeting people from different social upbringings but this particular guy honestly shocked me.

I’ve been having trouble sleeping so I’m quite exhausted. Sleep is like my best friend and without it I’m dysfunctional. I have tried many remedies to no avail so when this guy asked me how it was going I explained that nothing was working. His response was “I can put you to sleep”.

Now obviously I’m not slow so I kinda figured what he was saying to me but the rational part of me was saying “Girl you’ve got such a dirty mind, of course he doesn’t mean that! He wouldn’t dare!”

I was wrong. He meant it.

I’ve known this guy for about 5 weeks and we don’t know each other very well at all so the only conclusion I could come up with is that he thought I was the kind of person who would take him up on his offer.

Needless to say I was offended to the core and ensured he knew it. I need to explain that I’ve become a woman. I have set aside childish ways (most of the time!) and I’m acting like a mature individual. As a result this black boy was saved from my very rude and insulting reply. There’s ways to deal with ignorant people that does not require any Jackie Chan or Lequisha from the Bronx. I proceeded to explain very plainly that it was not ok to address anyone that way and that if he had said it to my face I would have gone ghetto on him.

He wasn’t even fazed! He just said he does this all the time and has received 4 offers as a result so it was worth a try to see what reaction he would get!

At that point my outrage subsided. It wasn’t an insult to me, he was just crazy. 

That I can deal with.

Serenity

I'm having a very hard day today. The Serenity prayer made me feel slightly better.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.


Hope it helps you out too.
Happy Sunday

Foolish Bombers KMT!

Can somebody please explain to me why bombers target the public and not the politicians?

Today is Nigeria’s 50^th independence anniversary and I am among the people that think Nigeria has very little to celebrate but nevertheless, how dare these terrorists bomb up civilians! 

As a Nigerian they should be fully aware of the struggles that the majority of the population overcome every day and that for some people today is just a celebration of life despite the daily horrors. Who are these people that don’t realise that the politicians who are erroneously ruling the country in order to fill their own pockets obviously don’t care how many people die or suffer! Bombing the place and killing people has no effect whatsoever on these political devil workers!

So a piece of advice to any future terrorists or dumb bombers – please target the political buildings such as the House of Parliament or the White House or just their regular homes will do. If you really want to go down in history, kidnap their wives or assassinate their children but whatever you do, DO NOT target the civilians who are as angry at the circumstances as you are and are working instead of bombing because their brain cells are still fully intact.

That is all.